Guilt. Mothers. Daughters

Originally published at Jen’s Corner. You can comment here or there.

I wrote this about my mom a few years ago. I was thinking about it today, and felt the need to post it here.

My mom was born in 1931 in Kansas City, MO. Her father molested her from when she was about 12 till she was about 16. Her mother didn’t believe her when she told about the incest. She had kept quiet about it to protect her younger sister — it didn’t work. Finally, her father was sent to jail for the incest, and her mother blamed her for it. She married young — 17 I believe — mainly to get away from home.

In 1950, she had Jimmy, in 1952 she had Michelle. In the meantime, she had told her husband about the incest with her father. When things got rocky in her marriage [Her husband hit her once, she decked him and told him if he did it again she’d kill him — that’s my mom! :) ] he suggested that she visit her family in Denver for a while to “cool off.” When she came back (about two weeks later) he had changed the locks and had filed for divorce on the grounds of abandonment.

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Not good

Originally published at Jen’s Corner. You can comment here or there.

Yesterday morning my father-in-law fell and broke his leg – the femur. He had surgery last night to put in a bunch of pins and screws and whatnot, and is doing fine today, though he sounds pretty out of it due to the drugs.

He’ll have to stay in the hospital for a few days, then to a rehab place for a few weeks before he can go home.

If you’re so inclined, “get well” thoughts, vibes, prayers, whathaveyou would be appreciated.